As promised – Zachariah was able to break it into three parts for me during spring break. So thankful for being able to share this with you all. The service was very meaningful for us and we were privileged that Ellie was able to share the promise of Heaven with our community. I hope that this will bless many. Charlotte
It is steadily raining outside, and indeed the rain flows down my face in the form of tears as I write this.
I am so thankful for all of you who walked with us through my pregnancy, Ellie’s birth and then her passing.
I have been able to get out many thank you notes… but not all…. yet. I am still working on some because everyone has been so kind, so generous, so faithful to our family. Extended family, friends, our community, Chris’ co-workers, our church family, our Citadel family, the MUSC staff, Beaufort Peds, Ellie’s doctors, nurses, the Hands of Hope staff and the many, many whom I have never met that have heard Ellie’s story from friends and online.
Every note, meal, email, message, text…. every kindness… has meant so much to us. Ellie has brought together so many – from so many backgrounds – and shown us how much we all need each other.
Ellie’s grave marker has been put up and it is so lovely. We go to see it whenever we are downtown. Since this picture was taken, they have sodded the area. To the right of Ellie’s grave is where Chris and I will be laid to rest one day.
I remember her today and everyday. A special blessing from the Lord. A child who had and still has a purpose. A child who was loved first by her Creator and second by us. A child that we could not keep here on this earth… but who we were privileged to have and to hold for three months. A child that was not supposed to be born by this world’s standard. A child who has a special place in all of our hearts.
I was hopeful that I would be able to share the service here, but it was too long. When Zachariah is home on spring break, I will ask him to edit it so that we can share it with all of you.
Thank you to all of you that came to the service, attended her viewing, came to the graveside or the reception. Your presence was felt by us even though we couldn’t speak to each of you individually.
I also wanted to thank so many of you who thought of us, prayed for us or sent us notes and sweet gifts because you were not able to attend. Your kindness was a blessing to our family.
If you live anywhere near Beaufort – I want to invite you to come to a very special event on Tuesday March 5th at 7 pm at Community Bible Church. October Baby will be showing. This movie is sponsored by the Beaufort Women’s Center and the admission is free. Here is a link to the event on Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/events/424923800928854/. I would also ask that you would consider supporting the Women’s Center in their mission to help mothers choose life for their unborn babies – firstname.lastname@example.org.
Every day we put our trust in the Lord and His provision for our family. He is our hope and our reason for doing what we do. I am so thankful for His great faithfulness to us. I look forward to what the future brings
“Who is like you, Lord God Almighty?
You, Lord, are mighty, and your faithfulness surrounds you.” – Psalm 89:8
Like apples of gold in settings of silver, is a word spoken in right circumstances. Proverbs 25:11
This poem was written by a friend who told me she woke with it on her heart in the middle of the night, and had to write it down. It has brought much comfort to Chris and I.
Her gentle breath was but a
whisper against our hearts
and yet we were caught off guard
as to the fierceness of our love for her…
What will we do now with
this emptiness that will be
forever hers? Adore the One to
Whom she now belongs and
know that He loves her more…
Fly on wings of eagles, sweet Ellie,
Our memories hold you dear
Your earthly time was not to be,
but, forevermore, you will be
our stairsteps into eternity…
Some thoughts from last Monday
a tiny white casket
sobbing breaths of a mother
agonized breath that opened up her entire being and brought forth life just a few short months ago
the same breath willing life back into tiny frailty
a little body so loved giving up the fight
her blood poured out and replaced with embalming fluid
“why” hangs in the air
thoughts turn to a Savior, blood poured out to preserve us for all eternity
breaking voice of the pastor
the Lord is still a stranger to some brought to hear the GOOD NEWS-
forgiveness of sin through His blood
and for those whom the Lord IS breath-God causes all things to work together for good-
told to those on the way to death for daring to breathe out the truth
a little princess, more alive now than ever
a family following Jesus until they fly away with their last breath
a New Year to remember life is like a vapor, here for a moment then vanishing-a mere breath
let everything that has breath praise the Lord
– Roshelle Wagner
So sweet and so gay
Came for Christmas
And then did fly away.
How we will miss you,
Our sweet little princess.
We shall never forget you
And the gifts you have brought us.
We don’t understand
Why you had to go,
But our Lord called you home
And it had to be so.
Your breathing unlabored,
Your heart beats at peace,
What joy you must have;
Can’t wait ’til we meet.
Our lives all shall be
As you remain alive
With God and our memories.
We love you, sweet Ellie.
Now, go play in the sun.
We will meet again
When the day here is done.
You remain safe
In our Lord Jesus’ care.
Remember that soon
We all will be there.
We love you, Ellie!
We will never forget you.
Dec 28, 2012
Hello everyone –
I found that a little one had switched my wallpaper on my phone yesterday to this picture. I wonder which of my children it was??
Just wanted to let everyone know that we are so thankful for each of you.
I am just starting to go through the cards we have received, and many that are still arriving.
I am going to share details about the funeral, procession, burial and reception along with some pictures… but I wanted to give you a quick update to let you know that we are here and have not forgotten all of you.
Chris took his brother and mother back to the airport last Wednesday and we spent the remainder of the week trying to catch our breath and understand where we are now.
Looking forward to answering emails, messages and texts tonight and personally responding to so much love.
Wanted to leave you with a thought that someone shared with me yesterday ~
“Ellie shared the Gospel with more people, than I have in my whole life.”
Well said friend and agreed.
Love to all….
We so felt the warmth and love tonight as the community, our friends and family gathered to honor Ellie.
What a testimony to God’s grace and love in our lives and in the life of our sweet little girl. She wore a beautiful gown that my dear friend had made for her. She also wore a new hat – especially created to go with her lovely gown.
I am so thankful to all of you who came out to share your love and support for us this weekend and also for all of you who prayed for us today, because you knew how difficult it would be.
Ellie was a beautiful princess tonight. Although I know that she is at home with the Lord, it was still sweet to see that beautiful outer shell that held her sweet spirit.
And it was a blessing to me personally to share her with so many of you who I love so dearly that didn’t get to see her in person while she was here on this earth.
And then at the end, when everyone left and Zachariah and Brittany took the children for us and my mother-in-law and brother-in-law went to car…
Chris and I stood alone in front of the casket and wept for the little girl we have come to cherish and love so much. It tore our hearts out to leave her. How can we walk away? But it would have been worse to never had the chance to know her at all. It would have been worse to not have been able to take the first step.
We are thankful to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, that He made it possible for us to have Ellie. Because our lives were completely changed in Him 14 years ago, we were able to welcome Ellie and trust Him day by day with her.
I pray that the Lord will help each of us to cherish our roles as the protectors of children – men and women who value and cherish life. Please pray for us as we approach the funeral services on Monday and the burial of our precious girl.
And He called a child to Himself and set him before them, and said, “Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one such child in My name receives Me; but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. Matthew 18:2-6
Ellie Louise Cushman of Port Royal, SC was born September 19, 2012. She weighed 4 lbs 7 oz and was born at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston, SC. Our precious daughter passed away from this life into the arms of the Lord Jesus on Wednesday, December 26, 2012 at our home.
Ellie is survived by parents, Chris and Charlotte Cushman, seven siblings, Zachariah, Brooke, Talley, Brant-Fowler, Hart, Susan and Taggart Cushman as well as extended family.
We invite our friends, family and community to join us for Ellie’s viewing and services. The viewing will be held at Saul’s Funeral Home in Bluffton on Saturday, December 29, 2012 from 5 until 7pm.
Come celebrate her life with us on Monday, December 31st at 11:00 am at Community Bible Church of Beaufort. Burial will be held at the Beaufort National Cemetery at 12:00 pm. We look forward to talking to you personally at a reception immediately following burial at the church in the Fellowship Hall.
The pneumonia Ellie had developed proved to be too much for her weakened immune system. We are grateful to have been able to enjoy her on this earth and spend our Christmas together. We look forward to “flying away” to meet her one day ~ as she is whole and healed in heaven with our Savior.
Diagnosed with a serious chromosomal abnormality called Trisomy 18 in utero, Ellie was a precious reminder of God’s grace in many people’s lives. Most babies diagnosed with this do not survive birth, and those who do are born with severe health problems, often involving malformations of the heart and other major organs. They may not be able to breathe without assistance, and they may require multiple surgeries before they can even leave the hospital. However, as more parents choose to keep these children, and as more medical professionals agree to treat these little patients, we are seeing more and more children surviving and thriving in spite of serious medical disabilities.
For more of Ellie’s story please go to: https://sensiblemom.wordpress.com/.
I lift up my eyes to the hills – where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip – He who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, He who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord watches over you – the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day nor the moon by night. The Lord will keep you from all harm – He will watch over your life. The Lord will watch over your coming and going now and forever more.
Instead of flowers, we would be honored if you would donate to the Ronald McDonald House of Charleston ~ 81 Gadsden Street, Charleston, SC 29401. Or please help fund research and education about Trisomy 18 at the Support Organization For Trisomy 18 (SOFT) at trisomy.org.
Our friends Martin and Diane Sauls of Sauls Funeral Home will be handling the arrangements http://www.saulsfh.com/.
We invite all of our friends and family to join us for Ellie’s viewing. It will be held at Saul’s Funeral Home in Bluffton on Saturday December 29th from 5 until 7.
In addition we would love for you to come celebrate her life with us at service for Ellie. It will be held on Monday December 31st at 11:00 am at Community Bible Church of Beaufort. Burial will be held at the Beaufort National Cemetery at 12:00 pm.
Thank you all for all the beautiful emails, texts, posts, messages and phone calls. You all have been a huge comfort to our family. Love to you all.
Charlotte & Chris
So David arose from the ground, washed, anointed himself, and changed his clothes; and he came into the house of the Lord and worshiped. 2 Samuel 12:20 a
Our sweet Ellie passed away from this life into the arms of the Lord Jesus Wednesday afternoon.
The pneumonia she had developed proved to be too much for her weakened immune system. We are grateful to have been able to enjoy her on this earth and spend our Christmas together. We look forward to “flying away” to meet her one day ~ as she is whole and healed in heaven.
We will be meeting with the funeral home tomorrow to discuss arrangements and will announce them here as soon as they are finalized.
We are thankful for the support and love that each of you has shown to our family as we have walked through this over the past three months. Our grief is real, but so is our joy in having such a blessing in Ellie.
I will be sure to post more details as soon as I can.
Love to each of you~
The Cushman Family